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Reframing Failure As Success

Reframing Failure As Success

Reframing Failure As Success – The Self-Creation School Podcast

Turning Setbacks into a Stepping-Stone to Success:

Self-Creation Coach, Leanne Letica, explores the concept of reframing failure as a form of success. She shares personal anecdotes, including her move from Australia to Europe, to illustrate how setbacks can lead to growth, resilience, and unexpected opportunities.

Leanne introduces nine powerful reframes that can transform your perception of failure and discusses how each can contribute to a more expansive definition of success. Whether it’s viewing failure as feedback, growth, or a plot twist, Leanne emphasizes the importance of seeing failures as an integral part of the journey toward achieving your dreams.

The episode encourages listeners to embrace failure as an essential step toward achieving their dreams and living a fulfilling life.

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction: Reframing Failure as Success

00:56 Personal Story: Moving to Europe

02:28 Challenging Societal Norms and What-Ifs

05:06 The Journey and Its Challenges

09:02 Reframing Failure: Key Mindsets

17:27 Final Thoughts: Embracing Failure for Success

20:23 Conclusion and Next Steps

YES! Moments:

“Failure is a mindset, just like success is.”

“Is something not working out the way you hope truly a failure? Or is it a success because you found out one way something doesn’t work for you?”

“Failing at something doesn’t define you unless you let it.”

“A success mindset is about asking better questions of your failure and choosing a more expansive definition of success.”

“Success isn’t the absence of failure, it’s the mastery of learning from it.”

Must-Have Resources:

  • Discover your YES! Block here.
  • Steal My Self-Creation Secrets here.
  • Get My Personal Manifesto here.
  • Grab My Daily Journal here.
  • Join Week of YES! here.

Connect with Leanne:

Episode Transcript:

Download the Transcript here.

Transcript

Here’s a thought for you. What if failure is really just a form of success? Let’s talk about it in today’s episode of The Self-Creation School podcast.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

Thanks so much for tuning in and welcome to today’s conversation about reframing failure as success.

a and moved to Europe back in:

At the time, our decision to do that came as quite the shock to a good majority of our family and friends. We had what ifs, can’ts and shouldn’ts coming at us from every direction.

You can’t start again at this age. You can’t speak the language. You shouldn’t leave your family. You shouldn’t turn your back on Australia. What if you get sick and need medical care? What if you don’t like living there? And the one that took the winning prize for me, what if you fail and come back to Australia with your tail between your legs?

Well, that for me was an interesting question on so many levels. Firstly, because it suggested that living out our dream and maybe finding out that it wasn’t for us, would somehow be a failure. And secondly, the assumption that we should be embarrassed about that outcome and what would be at the end of the day, our choice to return to our home country.

Let me tell you, I had plenty to say about this one in particular, but also about all of people’s limitations that they were imposing onto us.

I made it clear that there is no law that dictates an age limit for living out your dreams or moving country. There isn’t even a law about leaving your family behind in one country to go and live in another.

There are plenty of rules that everyone has been conditioned to believe as the absolute way and the right way one should live life, but those rules are self-imposed. And often they’re not the best way to make the most of your time on this earth. They’re certainly not the only way to live in any case, and they don’t always lead to a life that you love living.

Now when it came to all of the what ifs, what if you don’t like living there? Indeed, what if? Wouldn’t be a great thing to know. Because instead of being afraid of maybe not liking something we long dreamed about doing, and always wondering for the rest of our days and regretting not finding out, we would know it wasn’t for us.

And what if we did like living there? Imagine finding out that. What if it’s the best move we ever make? What if we don’t like living there, but it leads us to a place we do like living?

And back to the question of, what if we failed and returned home with our tail between our legs? So what if it doesn’t turn out the way we hope? Many things in life don’t. And what I know about things not going to plan is that they have almost always led me to my greatest successes in life.

Take my marriage, for example. Next week, my husband and I are celebrating 25 years together. Not bad for a relationship that wasn’t supposed to happen. And the only reason I have enjoyed 25 years with a man who is my best friend, who is my soulmate, is because my first marriage very quickly ended in divorce with me holding a six-week-old bundle of joy.

That bundle of joy and my husband’s bundle of joy from his previous relationship is how we connected for long enough for romance to blossom past all of our misplaced shoulds. I view my divorce and becoming a single mom as one of my greatest successes because it led me to my husband.

Is something not working out the way you hope truly a failure? Or is it a success because you found out one way something doesn’t work for you, and you’re now one step closer to finding what does?

Let me tell you, selling up most of our life and packing what was left into a container to be shipped to the other side of the world was no mean feat.

Going through the paperwork requirements for residency, the requirements for leaving our home country, negotiating a new land in a foreign language, finding a place to live and connecting all of our services, getting a driver’s license, making new friends, learning new customs and laws and jumping through all of the red tape that sometimes feels endless. None of that has been all that easy.

It took a whole lot of courage to live in the question of our dream and it took a whole lot of big bold moves and a willingness for it not to turn out despite our best efforts. Is that a failure? I’m going to suggest it is anything but, no matter the outcome.

If we decided to go back to Australia because we didn’t like living here, is the growth, is the experiences, the new friendships, the extensive travel we’ve done since we came, is that a failure or a complete success?

We came to live here to explore Europe, and we have most definitely done a lot of exploring these past two years. We came to experience something new, a different way of life. We’ve most definitely experienced a new way of living.

So to me, whether or not our dream of living in Europe turned out to be something we loved or not, there is no way I could ever view living in the question of that dream a failure, let alone feel embarrassed about the outcome.

My life has been so greatly enriched whether we stay in Europe, move to another country or return to Australia. And having the guts to try a dream on for size, that is never going to be something I will feel ashamed of or embarrassed about ever. My friend, I hope you do not either.

And this is what reframing your failures to successes is really all about. It’s about seeing your journey through a different lens. It’s about redefining what is a success for you and tuning out from the external noise and sometimes the internal noise around failure.

For all the people who saw our dream through the lens of their limitations, their definition of success is us living out the rest of our lives happily in Europe. It’s an all or nothing definition.

But through my lens, and with my own more expansive definition of success around this particular dream, there are countless possible outcomes which would all be a resounding success. Including not liking the whole experience one bit and returning to Australia.

And the reality is, we never proclaimed that the move would be forever. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. So to tie our success to staying here happily forever would make no sense whatsoever.

Here’s the thing, and you’re probably beginning to understand this about me, I don’t really believe in failure. I used to, I used to think I was a big failure. But failure is a mindset just like success is.

And I share all of this story with you just now because currently in our search for a potential second home in the South of France, I am reminded of the importance of choosing the lens you see your journey through and of leaving many outcomes of success on the table.

So I felt inspired to share with you some of my reframes for reframing your failures as successes and choosing an expansive success mindset. A mindset that reframes how you perceive your setbacks and your so-called failures and paves the way for success.

And my first reframe is this, failure is feedback.

Listen, failure isn’t an end point, it’s information. It shows us what didn’t work, and it provides clues for what could work next. In this sense, every failure becomes a stepping-stone towards success. So the reframe is, “I didn’t fail, I learned what doesn’t work, and that means I’m one step closer to finding what does.”

Reframe number two is failure means growth.

If you’re failing, it means you’re trying something new, you’re pushing the limits of what’s currently possible for you, and you’re stepping outside your comfort zone. Growth leads to a life fully lived and growth only happens when you take risks, when you make moves you’ve maybe never made before, which naturally involves some level of learning and failure along the way. So try this reframe, “Failing means I’m growing and growth leads to success.”

Reframe number three is failure builds resilience.

Every time you fail, you build strength, you build grit and the resilience to keep going. The more you encounter challenges and overcome them, the more capable you become. And if there’s one thing I know about becoming a resilient woman, it’s how much confidence it gives me to try new things and make big, bold moves.

Failure allows me to live a much more expansive life than I would have ever done if I never failed. And knowing I can overcome anything life throws my way means I’m not afraid of the unknown. So the reframe I want to offer you here is, “Failure is like a gym for my mind—every repetition makes me stronger and more capable of success.”

The next reframe, reframe number four, is failure is the price of admission. And by that, I mean admission into the game.

Every successful person I know playing the game for their dreams experiences failure before they experience success. And if you look right throughout history, you can find an abundance of evidence that no great achievement comes without some failure along the way.

So whether it’s starting a business, writing a book or learning a skill, failure is simply the cost of trying. And so the reframe I love here is, “Failure is proof that I am in the game.”

Following on from that, reframe number five is, success is built on failure.

Many overnight successes are actually the result of countless failures behind the scenes. And the truth is every setback is a necessary step in the process of refining your approach and ultimately paving the way to succeeding. So a great reframe here is, “Failure isn’t the opposite of success. It’s part of it.”

Reframe number six is, failure means you’re taking action.

My friend, the only way to avoid failure is to do nothing. Yet on the flip side, doing nothing ensures that you fail. And doing nothing is most certainly not going to lead you to a life well lived. So failing is a sign that you’re taking action, that you’re trying on new possibilities for size and that you are moving forward, even if it’s messy and yes, sometimes it is.

I know for me, I’d rather live through the mess to experience the success than to settle for a stagnant existence simply to avoid failure and failing in the process anyway. So my reframe on this is, “Failure is proof you’re moving forward.”

And you can probably see how many of these reframes tie in together. For example, if you’re moving forward, that means you’re growing. Growing means learning to be resilient. And that means you have the ability to take feedback on board and simply see it as part of the process.

My next reframe is, failure shatters ego.

Listen, failure can humble us and remind us that perfection isn’t the goal. It helps us detach from the need to appear flawless and rather to embrace the authenticity of life and of being human instead. So try this reframe, “Failure makes me real, not perfect.”

I’m a perfectionist by childhood trauma and this is a big one for me personally, but as the years go by, I’m starting to realize that perfection is boring, and I don’t want to be boring. So, if part of not being boring or living a boring life means failing, sign me up.

Moving on and reframe, let’s see, we’re up to number eight. Reframe number eight is, failure can reveal hidden opportunities.

Sometimes what feels like a failure is a redirection towards something better, like for me and my marriage. A missed goal or rejected opportunity can, and so often does, lead to breakthroughs you haven’t considered.

Sometimes in the moment it can be hard to see, especially if you’re buying into a story of failure. But think about it, how many positive things do you have in your life today because you failed in some way in the past? Something didn’t go to plan, and it ended up leading you to something far better. How many near misses are you actually grateful for turning out the way they did in hindsight?

So this may be my favorite reframe for you, “That wasn’t a failure, it was a plot twist.” My friend, every great story has a plot twist or two.

So I have two more reframes for you and reframe number nine is, failure is temporary.

Failing at something doesn’t define you unless you let it. It’s just one moment in time, the story isn’t over yet, and you always have the power to rewrite it. You’ll hear me say this time and again if you hang out with me for more than a minute, you get to choose what you make everything mean. You get to decide the story you tell about your failures. You also get to choose to leave your failures in the past and focus on the future.

So the reframe I’ll offer you here is, “This isn’t the end, it’s simply a chapter.” Remind yourself that you can turn the page, you can build on your story, and that the story you’ve lived can help you write an even better one moving forward.

And my final reframe is this, failure teaches self-compassion.

Experiencing failure allows you to be kinder to yourself and more understanding towards others. It’s a reminder that everyone struggles, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay. It’s a normal part of being human. And I think the experience of being human on this earth is truly a gift like no other. So my final reframe for you is this, “Failure helps me embrace my humanity and appreciate the humanity of others.”

Listen, when you stop viewing failure as a dead end and start seeing it as part of the process, as an opportunity to advance through the process, it loses its power to hold you back. It becomes no longer about avoiding failure but using it to your advantage because you understand that success isn’t the absence of failure, it’s the mastery of learning from it.

Remember, failure is feedback. It means growth. It builds resilience. It’s the price of being in the game of living your most fully expressed life possible.

Failure means that you are taking action, action that can reveal those hidden opportunities that change your world. It keeps you humble and teaches you self-compassion. It’s not a permanent state, and it’s not the end of your story. It’s absolutely not an indication that what you want isn’t for you or that you’ll never succeed. But rather, it offers you a stepping-stone for the success you seek.

Success is built on failure. It’s part of trying and doing and a success mindset is about asking better questions of your failure and choosing a more expansive definition of success. One thing people ask a lot when they’re around successful people is, how did you get there? How did you make that happen?

And they expect to hear this magic move a person made to become successful, this one thing they did. Yet I don’t think a single successful person would disagree with me that the magic behind their success lies in being willing to fail again and again and again and seeing those failures as a setup for their success.

Put me in a room of successful people and I want to know all the things that didn’t work, just as much as the things that did. Because the richness of their success comes from their journey through all of the failures, not the triumph of crossing the finish line.

This week, I encourage you to think about something you’ve labeled as a failure and reframe that failure using one, two, or all of the reframes I shared with you. Choose to see the hidden successes in that failure and notice how it changes your experience, how your perception of success shifts, and how you become much more willing to say YES! to trying again.

And I want to leave you with this. When you fall in love with failure and choose a more expansive definition of success, you will create a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Which brings today’s conversation to a close. Of course, I’ll be here next Wednesday, same time, same place, to share more of my Self-Creation secrets to help you live a life you love. I hope you enjoyed this episode, and I look forward to your company next week.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!

Hey, want to know what’s stopping you from saying YES! to you and a life you love?

Head over to https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock and take my FREE 60 second quiz to find out what’s standing in your way today and I’ll send you my Self-Creation Shift process for shifting it.

That’s https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock. I’ll see you there.

Turning Setbacks into a Stepping-Stone to Success:

Self-Creation Coach, Leanne Letica, explores the concept of reframing failure as a form of success. She shares personal anecdotes, including her move from Australia to Europe, to illustrate how setbacks can lead to growth, resilience, and unexpected opportunities.

Leanne introduces nine powerful reframes that can transform your perception of failure and discusses how each can contribute to a more expansive definition of success. Whether it’s viewing failure as feedback, growth, or a plot twist, Leanne emphasizes the importance of seeing failures as an integral part of the journey toward achieving your dreams.

The episode encourages listeners to embrace failure as an essential step toward achieving their dreams and living a fulfilling life.

In This Episode:

00:00 Introduction: Reframing Failure as Success

00:56 Personal Story: Moving to Europe

02:28 Challenging Societal Norms and What-Ifs

05:06 The Journey and Its Challenges

09:02 Reframing Failure: Key Mindsets

17:27 Final Thoughts: Embracing Failure for Success

20:23 Conclusion and Next Steps

YES! Moments:

“Failure is a mindset, just like success is.”

“Is something not working out the way you hope truly a failure? Or is it a success because you found out one way something doesn’t work for you?”

“Failing at something doesn’t define you unless you let it.”

“A success mindset is about asking better questions of your failure and choosing a more expansive definition of success.”

“Success isn’t the absence of failure, it’s the mastery of learning from it.”

Must-Have Resources:

  • Discover your YES! Block here.
  • Steal My Self-Creation Secrets here.
  • Get My Personal Manifesto here.
  • Grab My Daily Journal here.
  • Join Week of YES! here.

Connect with Leanne:

Episode Transcript:

Download the Transcript here.

Transcript

Here’s a thought for you. What if failure is really just a form of success? Let’s talk about it in today’s episode of The Self-Creation School podcast.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

Thanks so much for tuning in and welcome to today’s conversation about reframing failure as success.

a and moved to Europe back in:

At the time, our decision to do that came as quite the shock to a good majority of our family and friends. We had what ifs, can’ts and shouldn’ts coming at us from every direction.

You can’t start again at this age. You can’t speak the language. You shouldn’t leave your family. You shouldn’t turn your back on Australia. What if you get sick and need medical care? What if you don’t like living there? And the one that took the winning prize for me, what if you fail and come back to Australia with your tail between your legs?

Well, that for me was an interesting question on so many levels. Firstly, because it suggested that living out our dream and maybe finding out that it wasn’t for us, would somehow be a failure. And secondly, the assumption that we should be embarrassed about that outcome and what would be at the end of the day, our choice to return to our home country.

Let me tell you, I had plenty to say about this one in particular, but also about all of people’s limitations that they were imposing onto us.

I made it clear that there is no law that dictates an age limit for living out your dreams or moving country. There isn’t even a law about leaving your family behind in one country to go and live in another.

There are plenty of rules that everyone has been conditioned to believe as the absolute way and the right way one should live life, but those rules are self-imposed. And often they’re not the best way to make the most of your time on this earth. They’re certainly not the only way to live in any case, and they don’t always lead to a life that you love living.

Now when it came to all of the what ifs, what if you don’t like living there? Indeed, what if? Wouldn’t be a great thing to know. Because instead of being afraid of maybe not liking something we long dreamed about doing, and always wondering for the rest of our days and regretting not finding out, we would know it wasn’t for us.

And what if we did like living there? Imagine finding out that. What if it’s the best move we ever make? What if we don’t like living there, but it leads us to a place we do like living?

And back to the question of, what if we failed and returned home with our tail between our legs? So what if it doesn’t turn out the way we hope? Many things in life don’t. And what I know about things not going to plan is that they have almost always led me to my greatest successes in life.

Take my marriage, for example. Next week, my husband and I are celebrating 25 years together. Not bad for a relationship that wasn’t supposed to happen. And the only reason I have enjoyed 25 years with a man who is my best friend, who is my soulmate, is because my first marriage very quickly ended in divorce with me holding a six-week-old bundle of joy.

That bundle of joy and my husband’s bundle of joy from his previous relationship is how we connected for long enough for romance to blossom past all of our misplaced shoulds. I view my divorce and becoming a single mom as one of my greatest successes because it led me to my husband.

Is something not working out the way you hope truly a failure? Or is it a success because you found out one way something doesn’t work for you, and you’re now one step closer to finding what does?

Let me tell you, selling up most of our life and packing what was left into a container to be shipped to the other side of the world was no mean feat.

Going through the paperwork requirements for residency, the requirements for leaving our home country, negotiating a new land in a foreign language, finding a place to live and connecting all of our services, getting a driver’s license, making new friends, learning new customs and laws and jumping through all of the red tape that sometimes feels endless. None of that has been all that easy.

It took a whole lot of courage to live in the question of our dream and it took a whole lot of big bold moves and a willingness for it not to turn out despite our best efforts. Is that a failure? I’m going to suggest it is anything but, no matter the outcome.

If we decided to go back to Australia because we didn’t like living here, is the growth, is the experiences, the new friendships, the extensive travel we’ve done since we came, is that a failure or a complete success?

We came to live here to explore Europe, and we have most definitely done a lot of exploring these past two years. We came to experience something new, a different way of life. We’ve most definitely experienced a new way of living.

So to me, whether or not our dream of living in Europe turned out to be something we loved or not, there is no way I could ever view living in the question of that dream a failure, let alone feel embarrassed about the outcome.

My life has been so greatly enriched whether we stay in Europe, move to another country or return to Australia. And having the guts to try a dream on for size, that is never going to be something I will feel ashamed of or embarrassed about ever. My friend, I hope you do not either.

And this is what reframing your failures to successes is really all about. It’s about seeing your journey through a different lens. It’s about redefining what is a success for you and tuning out from the external noise and sometimes the internal noise around failure.

For all the people who saw our dream through the lens of their limitations, their definition of success is us living out the rest of our lives happily in Europe. It’s an all or nothing definition.

But through my lens, and with my own more expansive definition of success around this particular dream, there are countless possible outcomes which would all be a resounding success. Including not liking the whole experience one bit and returning to Australia.

And the reality is, we never proclaimed that the move would be forever. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. So to tie our success to staying here happily forever would make no sense whatsoever.

Here’s the thing, and you’re probably beginning to understand this about me, I don’t really believe in failure. I used to, I used to think I was a big failure. But failure is a mindset just like success is.

And I share all of this story with you just now because currently in our search for a potential second home in the South of France, I am reminded of the importance of choosing the lens you see your journey through and of leaving many outcomes of success on the table.

So I felt inspired to share with you some of my reframes for reframing your failures as successes and choosing an expansive success mindset. A mindset that reframes how you perceive your setbacks and your so-called failures and paves the way for success.

And my first reframe is this, failure is feedback.

Listen, failure isn’t an end point, it’s information. It shows us what didn’t work, and it provides clues for what could work next. In this sense, every failure becomes a stepping-stone towards success. So the reframe is, “I didn’t fail, I learned what doesn’t work, and that means I’m one step closer to finding what does.”

Reframe number two is failure means growth.

If you’re failing, it means you’re trying something new, you’re pushing the limits of what’s currently possible for you, and you’re stepping outside your comfort zone. Growth leads to a life fully lived and growth only happens when you take risks, when you make moves you’ve maybe never made before, which naturally involves some level of learning and failure along the way. So try this reframe, “Failing means I’m growing and growth leads to success.”

Reframe number three is failure builds resilience.

Every time you fail, you build strength, you build grit and the resilience to keep going. The more you encounter challenges and overcome them, the more capable you become. And if there’s one thing I know about becoming a resilient woman, it’s how much confidence it gives me to try new things and make big, bold moves.

Failure allows me to live a much more expansive life than I would have ever done if I never failed. And knowing I can overcome anything life throws my way means I’m not afraid of the unknown. So the reframe I want to offer you here is, “Failure is like a gym for my mind—every repetition makes me stronger and more capable of success.”

The next reframe, reframe number four, is failure is the price of admission. And by that, I mean admission into the game.

Every successful person I know playing the game for their dreams experiences failure before they experience success. And if you look right throughout history, you can find an abundance of evidence that no great achievement comes without some failure along the way.

So whether it’s starting a business, writing a book or learning a skill, failure is simply the cost of trying. And so the reframe I love here is, “Failure is proof that I am in the game.”

Following on from that, reframe number five is, success is built on failure.

Many overnight successes are actually the result of countless failures behind the scenes. And the truth is every setback is a necessary step in the process of refining your approach and ultimately paving the way to succeeding. So a great reframe here is, “Failure isn’t the opposite of success. It’s part of it.”

Reframe number six is, failure means you’re taking action.

My friend, the only way to avoid failure is to do nothing. Yet on the flip side, doing nothing ensures that you fail. And doing nothing is most certainly not going to lead you to a life well lived. So failing is a sign that you’re taking action, that you’re trying on new possibilities for size and that you are moving forward, even if it’s messy and yes, sometimes it is.

I know for me, I’d rather live through the mess to experience the success than to settle for a stagnant existence simply to avoid failure and failing in the process anyway. So my reframe on this is, “Failure is proof you’re moving forward.”

And you can probably see how many of these reframes tie in together. For example, if you’re moving forward, that means you’re growing. Growing means learning to be resilient. And that means you have the ability to take feedback on board and simply see it as part of the process.

My next reframe is, failure shatters ego.

Listen, failure can humble us and remind us that perfection isn’t the goal. It helps us detach from the need to appear flawless and rather to embrace the authenticity of life and of being human instead. So try this reframe, “Failure makes me real, not perfect.”

I’m a perfectionist by childhood trauma and this is a big one for me personally, but as the years go by, I’m starting to realize that perfection is boring, and I don’t want to be boring. So, if part of not being boring or living a boring life means failing, sign me up.

Moving on and reframe, let’s see, we’re up to number eight. Reframe number eight is, failure can reveal hidden opportunities.

Sometimes what feels like a failure is a redirection towards something better, like for me and my marriage. A missed goal or rejected opportunity can, and so often does, lead to breakthroughs you haven’t considered.

Sometimes in the moment it can be hard to see, especially if you’re buying into a story of failure. But think about it, how many positive things do you have in your life today because you failed in some way in the past? Something didn’t go to plan, and it ended up leading you to something far better. How many near misses are you actually grateful for turning out the way they did in hindsight?

So this may be my favorite reframe for you, “That wasn’t a failure, it was a plot twist.” My friend, every great story has a plot twist or two.

So I have two more reframes for you and reframe number nine is, failure is temporary.

Failing at something doesn’t define you unless you let it. It’s just one moment in time, the story isn’t over yet, and you always have the power to rewrite it. You’ll hear me say this time and again if you hang out with me for more than a minute, you get to choose what you make everything mean. You get to decide the story you tell about your failures. You also get to choose to leave your failures in the past and focus on the future.

So the reframe I’ll offer you here is, “This isn’t the end, it’s simply a chapter.” Remind yourself that you can turn the page, you can build on your story, and that the story you’ve lived can help you write an even better one moving forward.

And my final reframe is this, failure teaches self-compassion.

Experiencing failure allows you to be kinder to yourself and more understanding towards others. It’s a reminder that everyone struggles, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay. It’s a normal part of being human. And I think the experience of being human on this earth is truly a gift like no other. So my final reframe for you is this, “Failure helps me embrace my humanity and appreciate the humanity of others.”

Listen, when you stop viewing failure as a dead end and start seeing it as part of the process, as an opportunity to advance through the process, it loses its power to hold you back. It becomes no longer about avoiding failure but using it to your advantage because you understand that success isn’t the absence of failure, it’s the mastery of learning from it.

Remember, failure is feedback. It means growth. It builds resilience. It’s the price of being in the game of living your most fully expressed life possible.

Failure means that you are taking action, action that can reveal those hidden opportunities that change your world. It keeps you humble and teaches you self-compassion. It’s not a permanent state, and it’s not the end of your story. It’s absolutely not an indication that what you want isn’t for you or that you’ll never succeed. But rather, it offers you a stepping-stone for the success you seek.

Success is built on failure. It’s part of trying and doing and a success mindset is about asking better questions of your failure and choosing a more expansive definition of success. One thing people ask a lot when they’re around successful people is, how did you get there? How did you make that happen?

And they expect to hear this magic move a person made to become successful, this one thing they did. Yet I don’t think a single successful person would disagree with me that the magic behind their success lies in being willing to fail again and again and again and seeing those failures as a setup for their success.

Put me in a room of successful people and I want to know all the things that didn’t work, just as much as the things that did. Because the richness of their success comes from their journey through all of the failures, not the triumph of crossing the finish line.

This week, I encourage you to think about something you’ve labeled as a failure and reframe that failure using one, two, or all of the reframes I shared with you. Choose to see the hidden successes in that failure and notice how it changes your experience, how your perception of success shifts, and how you become much more willing to say YES! to trying again.

And I want to leave you with this. When you fall in love with failure and choose a more expansive definition of success, you will create a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Which brings today’s conversation to a close. Of course, I’ll be here next Wednesday, same time, same place, to share more of my Self-Creation secrets to help you live a life you love. I hope you enjoyed this episode, and I look forward to your company next week.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!

Hey, want to know what’s stopping you from saying YES! to you and a life you love?

Head over to https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock and take my FREE 60 second quiz to find out what’s standing in your way today and I’ll send you my Self-Creation Shift process for shifting it.

That’s https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock. I’ll see you there.

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