I talk a lot about saying YES!. And sometimes women will message me and say, Leanne, you shouldn’t be encouraging women to say YES! all of the time. What we really need is to start saying no.

And I get where they’re coming from, but here’s my take on that. Most women are already very good at saying no. They’ve just been saying it to the wrong person.

They’re saying no to themselves. No to their dreams. No to their desires. No to coming first. No to being enough. No to being ready. No to being the leading lady in their own life and shining in their own light. You’re hearing me, right? They’re almost never saying YES! to themselves.

So no, women do not need my help to learn how to say no. They need my help to reclaim their misplaced YESES!. They need my help to do a YOU-Turn, a Y.O.U. turn and stop saying no to themselves and YES! to everyone and everything else, and start saying YES! to the woman who does deserve to matter. Who does deserve to take up space and live her most fully expressed life.

And listen, I know this might land a little hard. But it’s the truth. You do only get this one life, and time is not waiting for anyone to decide that their one life matters. Time is ticking. And this episode is your invitation to draw a line in the sand, make a Y.O.U. turn and say YES! to you.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

Thanks so much for tuning in and a very warm welcome to today’s conversation where we are talking about reclaiming your YES! so you can start living a life you wildly love.

Over the past few days, I have been putting the finishing touches on my YES! TO YOU masterclass. Which is tomorrow, by the way, if you’re listening to this episode on the day of its release. So it’s a not too late to join me live and you can also catch the replay for free for a limited time.

So if you’d like to learn my proven process for saying YES! to you and creating a life you wildly love, head over to my website at https://selfcreationschool.com/yestoyou, and you’ll find all the details you need for the masterclass right there.

I’ll also leave that link in the show notes for you. It’s going to be a really valuable session.

But in putting together this masterclass, I have been reminded of just how many ways women are telling themselves no, often in silent ways they don’t even realize. And how that silent self-denial is quietly stealing their joy, their peace, and their fulfillment as the years, well, they start to add up.

Here’s the thing. What I’ve come to see again and again in this work that I do, is that most of us aren’t just saying YES! to the wrong things by accident. We’re saying YES! because we’ve been trained to.

We’ve been raised as women to be helpful, easygoing, flexible, responsible, supportive. The ones who always come through. The ones who don’t need much. The ones who can manage just fine, thank you very much. The ones who put the needs of others before our own.

And so we are conditioned to say YES! to everyone else by default, before we’ve even considered the silent no we are saying to ourselves.

One of the biggest issues that comes from this is that we start to equate our worthiness with our willingness. We begin to see our outward YESES! as proof of our internal value. And saying no to ourselves becomes the way we earn our place in our world.

But those misplaced YESES!, they come with a cost.

They cost us clarity about who we are, what we want, what makes us truly happy. They cost us authenticity. They cost us energy and our well-being. They cost us true joy and fulfillment. And most of all, they cost us time. Because a lot of us spend years, even decades, saying YES! to everything around us while quietly saying no to ourselves. And that my friend is time we don’t get back.

Until one day we look up and we wonder, why do I feel stuck? Why am I so tired all of the time? Why does my life feel like it’s happening but without me really in it? Why am I doing so much and it never feels enough?

And it’s not because you haven’t been doing enough, it’s because you’ve been doing so much of what doesn’t actually feel true. You’ve been saying YES! on autopilot to all the things you thought you were supposed to, and slowly, silently, you’ve left yourself behind.

I know this place very well. I spent most of my life saying no to me. No to my worthiness, no to being enough and no to being too much all at the same time, if you get what I mean. I had learned to shrink almost every part of the real me and instead show up as the me I thought everyone would approve of. Because showing up as me in my early years hadn’t met with a whole lot of approval and instead a whole lot of rejection.

So, I said no to the true me or at least many parts of the true me. I dimmed my light. I shrunk into the shadows. And I said YES! to showing up in the way I was led to believe would be met with approval. In the way I was conditioned to believe was the right way to live, never really considering what actually felt right for me.

I blindly followed society’s roadmap for a worthy life because that would mean a happy life, right? And I realized a long way down the path that I wasn’t enjoying the trip because I wasn’t really taking the trip. A version of me was taking the trip, while the true me was packed away in a suitcase in the trunk making room for everyone else up front. She was being dragged along, but she wasn’t even given a seat, and she most certainly wasn’t the one behind the wheel.

Eventually, the road I was on became a little rocky and I found myself at a crossroads. I could keep heading down the road of saying YES! to everyone and everything else or I could do a YOU-Turn and start saying YES! to me. Start saying YES! to how it felt right for me to live my life and show up in my world.

And I decided I had already traveled for far too long down a road that felt like a dead end. It was time to unpack myself out of that suitcase, get behind the wheel of my life, and set out to discover my own happy place in this world.

That YOU-Turn, that Y.O.U. turn, it changed everything. And today I’m traveling down the road of a life I wildly love because I reclaimed my YES! for all the things that matter most to me.

And you can do a YOU-Turn too. You can reclaim your YES! and redirect it to honor this one precious life you’ve been given to live for you. Not for everyone else, but for you. To make it finally feel like it’s actually yours. Not a performance, not a checklist, not a role you’re playing for someone else, but your life on your terms. You can say YES! to you. And trust me, my friend, when you do everyone wins.

Because when you say YES! to you, you show up more fully for everyone and everything. You show up from a place of authenticity. From a place of authentic joy. From a place of deep truth. And from a place that’s sustainable, honest, abundant, and expansive.

When you allow your light to shine fully, it brightens the world for everyone in it. And it gives others the permission they might need to do the same.

So I want to ask you this today.

Where is your YES! going? Who or what is getting your YES! right now at the expense of a silent no to you? What are you agreeing to with your time, your energy, your presence that no longer feels right but you’ve said YES! to it anyway? And maybe most importantly, what have you been saying no to simply because you’ve forgotten you were even allowed to say YES!?

Listen, reclaiming your YES! doesn’t mean you suddenly start saying no to everyone else. It means you stop putting yourself last. It means you start checking in with what feels true for you before handing out another YES! on autopilot. It means you stop asking, will they be okay with this? And start asking, will I be okay with this?

That’s the YOU-Turn. That’s a quiet, courageous moment where everything starts to shift.

Now, you don’t have to say all of the YESES! to you at once or right away. But what if today you gave yourself just one YES! back? What if you turned towards yourself with curiosity instead of criticism? What if you said YES! to your rest? YES! to one true desire? YES! to your quiet craving for something more? What might shift if your YES! came home to you?

So today’s episode is not about giving you a framework or a process to follow to reclaim your YES!. But it’s more one where I want to open the door for you to have a conversation with yourself about where you might be misplacing your YES! and start thinking about what that’s costing you.

That’s what I really want you to take away from today. Not another strategy, not another process to follow. Just a gentle invitation to pause and ask yourself, where have I been saying no to me? And what would shift if I did a YOU-Turn and started saying YES! to what actually feels right for me?

Because remember, your YES! isn’t just a decision. It’s a direction. Every YES! you’re giving is shaping the life you’re living. So if your life doesn’t quite feel like yours right now or not fully yours, if you’re not loving your life the way you thought you would, maybe it’s time for a YOU-Turn.

It doesn’t have to be a dramatic one, unless you want it to be. It doesn’t even have to be a burn it all down kind of moment, unless you want it to be. But just taking one step out of the shadows and saying one small, powerful YES! to you, that’s how the journey back to you and a life you wildly love begins. It’s just one YES! to you at a time my friend, one day at a time.

So, take this episode as your permission slip if you need one. Or maybe even better, use it as a reminder that you never actually needed permission to say YES! to you.

And if you’d like to learn more about how you can say YES! to you, I would truly love to see you in the YES! TO YOU masterclass. That link is in the show notes for you, or you can head to my website at https://selfcreationschool.com/yestoyou and sign up to join me right there.

It’s free, it’s shaping up to be a game-changer, and it’s for the woman who knows deep down it’s time to do a YOU-Turn and come back to you.

With that, I’m closing out this episode. It’s a short and sweet one today, but plenty of food for thought. I’ll see you in the masterclass and of course I’ll be here for another conversation about creating a life you wildly love next Wednesday.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!

Hey, want to know what’s stopping you from saying YES! to you and a life you love?

Head over to https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock and take my FREE 60 second quiz to find out what’s standing in your way today and I’ll send you my Self-Creation Shift process for shifting it.

That’s https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock. I’ll see you there.

I talk a lot about saying YES!. And sometimes women will message me and say, Leanne, you shouldn’t be encouraging women to say YES! all of the time. What we really need is to start saying no.

And I get where they’re coming from, but here’s my take on that. Most women are already very good at saying no. They’ve just been saying it to the wrong person.

They’re saying no to themselves. No to their dreams. No to their desires. No to coming first. No to being enough. No to being ready. No to being the leading lady in their own life and shining in their own light. You’re hearing me, right? They’re almost never saying YES! to themselves.

So no, women do not need my help to learn how to say no. They need my help to reclaim their misplaced YESES!. They need my help to do a YOU-Turn, a Y.O.U. turn and stop saying no to themselves and YES! to everyone and everything else, and start saying YES! to the woman who does deserve to matter. Who does deserve to take up space and live her most fully expressed life.

And listen, I know this might land a little hard. But it’s the truth. You do only get this one life, and time is not waiting for anyone to decide that their one life matters. Time is ticking. And this episode is your invitation to draw a line in the sand, make a Y.O.U. turn and say YES! to you.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

Thanks so much for tuning in and a very warm welcome to today’s conversation where we are talking about reclaiming your YES! so you can start living a life you wildly love.

Over the past few days, I have been putting the finishing touches on my YES! TO YOU masterclass. Which is tomorrow, by the way, if you’re listening to this episode on the day of its release. So it’s a not too late to join me live and you can also catch the replay for free for a limited time.

So if you’d like to learn my proven process for saying YES! to you and creating a life you wildly love, head over to my website at https://selfcreationschool.com/yestoyou, and you’ll find all the details you need for the masterclass right there.

I’ll also leave that link in the show notes for you. It’s going to be a really valuable session.

But in putting together this masterclass, I have been reminded of just how many ways women are telling themselves no, often in silent ways they don’t even realize. And how that silent self-denial is quietly stealing their joy, their peace, and their fulfillment as the years, well, they start to add up.

Here’s the thing. What I’ve come to see again and again in this work that I do, is that most of us aren’t just saying YES! to the wrong things by accident. We’re saying YES! because we’ve been trained to.

We’ve been raised as women to be helpful, easygoing, flexible, responsible, supportive. The ones who always come through. The ones who don’t need much. The ones who can manage just fine, thank you very much. The ones who put the needs of others before our own.

And so we are conditioned to say YES! to everyone else by default, before we’ve even considered the silent no we are saying to ourselves.

One of the biggest issues that comes from this is that we start to equate our worthiness with our willingness. We begin to see our outward YESES! as proof of our internal value. And saying no to ourselves becomes the way we earn our place in our world.

But those misplaced YESES!, they come with a cost.

They cost us clarity about who we are, what we want, what makes us truly happy. They cost us authenticity. They cost us energy and our well-being. They cost us true joy and fulfillment. And most of all, they cost us time. Because a lot of us spend years, even decades, saying YES! to everything around us while quietly saying no to ourselves. And that my friend is time we don’t get back.

Until one day we look up and we wonder, why do I feel stuck? Why am I so tired all of the time? Why does my life feel like it’s happening but without me really in it? Why am I doing so much and it never feels enough?

And it’s not because you haven’t been doing enough, it’s because you’ve been doing so much of what doesn’t actually feel true. You’ve been saying YES! on autopilot to all the things you thought you were supposed to, and slowly, silently, you’ve left yourself behind.

I know this place very well. I spent most of my life saying no to me. No to my worthiness, no to being enough and no to being too much all at the same time, if you get what I mean. I had learned to shrink almost every part of the real me and instead show up as the me I thought everyone would approve of. Because showing up as me in my early years hadn’t met with a whole lot of approval and instead a whole lot of rejection.

So, I said no to the true me or at least many parts of the true me. I dimmed my light. I shrunk into the shadows. And I said YES! to showing up in the way I was led to believe would be met with approval. In the way I was conditioned to believe was the right way to live, never really considering what actually felt right for me.

I blindly followed society’s roadmap for a worthy life because that would mean a happy life, right? And I realized a long way down the path that I wasn’t enjoying the trip because I wasn’t really taking the trip. A version of me was taking the trip, while the true me was packed away in a suitcase in the trunk making room for everyone else up front. She was being dragged along, but she wasn’t even given a seat, and she most certainly wasn’t the one behind the wheel.

Eventually, the road I was on became a little rocky and I found myself at a crossroads. I could keep heading down the road of saying YES! to everyone and everything else or I could do a YOU-Turn and start saying YES! to me. Start saying YES! to how it felt right for me to live my life and show up in my world.

And I decided I had already traveled for far too long down a road that felt like a dead end. It was time to unpack myself out of that suitcase, get behind the wheel of my life, and set out to discover my own happy place in this world.

That YOU-Turn, that Y.O.U. turn, it changed everything. And today I’m traveling down the road of a life I wildly love because I reclaimed my YES! for all the things that matter most to me.

And you can do a YOU-Turn too. You can reclaim your YES! and redirect it to honor this one precious life you’ve been given to live for you. Not for everyone else, but for you. To make it finally feel like it’s actually yours. Not a performance, not a checklist, not a role you’re playing for someone else, but your life on your terms. You can say YES! to you. And trust me, my friend, when you do everyone wins.

Because when you say YES! to you, you show up more fully for everyone and everything. You show up from a place of authenticity. From a place of authentic joy. From a place of deep truth. And from a place that’s sustainable, honest, abundant, and expansive.

When you allow your light to shine fully, it brightens the world for everyone in it. And it gives others the permission they might need to do the same.

So I want to ask you this today.

Where is your YES! going? Who or what is getting your YES! right now at the expense of a silent no to you? What are you agreeing to with your time, your energy, your presence that no longer feels right but you’ve said YES! to it anyway? And maybe most importantly, what have you been saying no to simply because you’ve forgotten you were even allowed to say YES!?

Listen, reclaiming your YES! doesn’t mean you suddenly start saying no to everyone else. It means you stop putting yourself last. It means you start checking in with what feels true for you before handing out another YES! on autopilot. It means you stop asking, will they be okay with this? And start asking, will I be okay with this?

That’s the YOU-Turn. That’s a quiet, courageous moment where everything starts to shift.

Now, you don’t have to say all of the YESES! to you at once or right away. But what if today you gave yourself just one YES! back? What if you turned towards yourself with curiosity instead of criticism? What if you said YES! to your rest? YES! to one true desire? YES! to your quiet craving for something more? What might shift if your YES! came home to you?

So today’s episode is not about giving you a framework or a process to follow to reclaim your YES!. But it’s more one where I want to open the door for you to have a conversation with yourself about where you might be misplacing your YES! and start thinking about what that’s costing you.

That’s what I really want you to take away from today. Not another strategy, not another process to follow. Just a gentle invitation to pause and ask yourself, where have I been saying no to me? And what would shift if I did a YOU-Turn and started saying YES! to what actually feels right for me?

Because remember, your YES! isn’t just a decision. It’s a direction. Every YES! you’re giving is shaping the life you’re living. So if your life doesn’t quite feel like yours right now or not fully yours, if you’re not loving your life the way you thought you would, maybe it’s time for a YOU-Turn.

It doesn’t have to be a dramatic one, unless you want it to be. It doesn’t even have to be a burn it all down kind of moment, unless you want it to be. But just taking one step out of the shadows and saying one small, powerful YES! to you, that’s how the journey back to you and a life you wildly love begins. It’s just one YES! to you at a time my friend, one day at a time.

So, take this episode as your permission slip if you need one. Or maybe even better, use it as a reminder that you never actually needed permission to say YES! to you.

And if you’d like to learn more about how you can say YES! to you, I would truly love to see you in the YES! TO YOU masterclass. That link is in the show notes for you, or you can head to my website at https://selfcreationschool.com/yestoyou and sign up to join me right there.

It’s free, it’s shaping up to be a game-changer, and it’s for the woman who knows deep down it’s time to do a YOU-Turn and come back to you.

With that, I’m closing out this episode. It’s a short and sweet one today, but plenty of food for thought. I’ll see you in the masterclass and of course I’ll be here for another conversation about creating a life you wildly love next Wednesday.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!

Hey, want to know what’s stopping you from saying YES! to you and a life you love?

Head over to https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock and take my FREE 60 second quiz to find out what’s standing in your way today and I’ll send you my Self-Creation Shift process for shifting it.

That’s https://selfcreationschool.com/yesblock. I’ll see you there.