Something I’ve learned over the years is that you get what you tolerate. And if you want different results in your life, you need to change what you’re willing to accept for yourself, of yourself and of others.

In today’s Summer Secret episode, let’s talk about how the standards you accept, determine the reality you experience.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

This is week seven of my Summer Secret Series. If you’re just joining me for the first time, these secrets do build on each other. So to get the full experience, I definitely encourage you to go back and start at week one.

Last week we talked about prioritizing pleasure in every moment. And if you’ve been applying this, like me, you’ve probably started noticing all the things in your life that don’t feel good. Things you’ve been tolerating, accepting, perhaps without even realizing.

Stepping back to pause after this prolonged period of hustle in my business has really allowed me to see very clearly just how much the standards I have been tolerating and accepting for myself have not been serving me.

And I’ve always found this to be true. The standards you accept for yourself, of yourself, and of others, become the benchmark for what you experience. Essentially, you get what you tolerate.

If you tolerate friends who are always late, you’ll have friends who are always late. If you tolerate a messy environment, you’ll live in chaos. If you tolerate poor treatment from clients, you’ll keep attracting clients who treat you poorly.

So this week’s secret comes from a reminder, I’ve been very much in need of. What you tolerate becomes what you get. And standards are how you set what you tolerate.

And the way I think about standards is this. They are like your personal operating system. They’re the rules that determine what you will and won’t accept in your life. They’re not about being difficult or demanding, but rather they’re about influencing the circumstances you experience.

Most people think their circumstances just happen to them. But your circumstances are largely a reflection of what you’ve been willing to tolerate. When you change what you tolerate, you change your reality.

If your standard is that people respect your time, you stop accepting chronic lateness. If your standard is a peaceful environment, you stop tolerating clutter and chaos. If your standard is to be treated with respect, you stop accepting behavior that diminishes you.

Your standards literally set the bar for what you experience in every area of your life. Relationships, work, health, environment, everything. But here’s what most people don’t realize. If you don’t consciously set your standards, life will set them for you. And life’s default setting is usually far lower than what you actually want.

This is why checking in regularly is just so important, especially when you’re creating more pleasure and alignment in your life. Because the higher your standards, the better your experience. It’s that simple. And being human means sometimes we are going to find ourselves up track and tolerating less than what it is we truly desire.

So this week, I want you to look at one area of your life where you’re not getting the experience you want and ask yourself, “What am I tolerating that is holding me back from having what I want in this moment?”

Maybe you’re tolerating being unfit because you haven’t set standards for your health. Maybe you’re tolerating stress because you haven’t set standards for your workload. Maybe you’re tolerating drama because you haven’t set standards for who you surround yourself with.

Whatever it is, this may be hard to hear but I want you to understand, you’re getting what you’re tolerating. And you have the power to change what you tolerate by raising your standards.

Your standards today determine your reality tomorrow. So what standards will you choose to tolerate today?

And that’s your Summer Secret for this week.

Make sure you hit subscribe for next week’s secret and join the Summer Secrets email series at https://selfcreationschool.com/created if you’d like a reminder to listen in.

I’ll be back next week, same time, same place with another Summer Secret.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!.

 Something I’ve learned over the years is that you get what you tolerate. And if you want different results in your life, you need to change what you’re willing to accept for yourself, of yourself and of others.

In today’s Summer Secret episode, let’s talk about how the standards you accept, determine the reality you experience.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

This is week seven of my Summer Secret Series. If you’re just joining me for the first time, these secrets do build on each other. So to get the full experience, I definitely encourage you to go back and start at week one.

Last week we talked about prioritizing pleasure in every moment. And if you’ve been applying this, like me, you’ve probably started noticing all the things in your life that don’t feel good. Things you’ve been tolerating, accepting, perhaps without even realizing.

Stepping back to pause after this prolonged period of hustle in my business has really allowed me to see very clearly just how much the standards I have been tolerating and accepting for myself have not been serving me.

And I’ve always found this to be true. The standards you accept for yourself, of yourself, and of others, become the benchmark for what you experience. Essentially, you get what you tolerate.

If you tolerate friends who are always late, you’ll have friends who are always late. If you tolerate a messy environment, you’ll live in chaos. If you tolerate poor treatment from clients, you’ll keep attracting clients who treat you poorly.

So this week’s secret comes from a reminder, I’ve been very much in need of. What you tolerate becomes what you get. And standards are how you set what you tolerate.

And the way I think about standards is this. They are like your personal operating system. They’re the rules that determine what you will and won’t accept in your life. They’re not about being difficult or demanding, but rather they’re about influencing the circumstances you experience.

Most people think their circumstances just happen to them. But your circumstances are largely a reflection of what you’ve been willing to tolerate. When you change what you tolerate, you change your reality.

If your standard is that people respect your time, you stop accepting chronic lateness. If your standard is a peaceful environment, you stop tolerating clutter and chaos. If your standard is to be treated with respect, you stop accepting behavior that diminishes you.

Your standards literally set the bar for what you experience in every area of your life. Relationships, work, health, environment, everything. But here’s what most people don’t realize. If you don’t consciously set your standards, life will set them for you. And life’s default setting is usually far lower than what you actually want.

This is why checking in regularly is just so important, especially when you’re creating more pleasure and alignment in your life. Because the higher your standards, the better your experience. It’s that simple. And being human means sometimes we are going to find ourselves up track and tolerating less than what it is we truly desire.

So this week, I want you to look at one area of your life where you’re not getting the experience you want and ask yourself, “What am I tolerating that is holding me back from having what I want in this moment?”

Maybe you’re tolerating being unfit because you haven’t set standards for your health. Maybe you’re tolerating stress because you haven’t set standards for your workload. Maybe you’re tolerating drama because you haven’t set standards for who you surround yourself with.

Whatever it is, this may be hard to hear but I want you to understand, you’re getting what you’re tolerating. And you have the power to change what you tolerate by raising your standards.

Your standards today determine your reality tomorrow. So what standards will you choose to tolerate today?

And that’s your Summer Secret for this week.

Make sure you hit subscribe for next week’s secret and join the Summer Secrets email series at https://selfcreationschool.com/created if you’d like a reminder to listen in.

I’ll be back next week, same time, same place with another Summer Secret.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!.