Everyone loves a good cheat sheet, right? Well, today I’m sharing seven cheat codes for saying YES! to a life you love.

These are simple but powerful fundamentals that I come back to time and time again. And each one of them is needle-moving on its own—but when you live by all seven? My friend, they will change the game.

Let’s dive in.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

Hello, and thanks so much for tuning in to today’s conversation. It’s great to have your company. If you are joining me for the first time, this podcast is the place where I share my secrets for creating a life you wildly love, one YES! to you and your dreams at a time.

I’m excited for today’s topic because what I have to share with you are seven simple shifts that you can make in your life today that really will change the game and fast. I call them cheat codes because honestly? To me they are such simple shifts, it kind of feels like cheating that they are just so very powerful at moving the needle forward on the life you want.

So, let’s kick things off and let’s start with the one that I have been personally leaning on a lot at the moment. Cheat code number one is let it be unclear until it’s not. Let it be unclear until it’s not.

So many of you are waiting to be 100% crystal clear and certain on the who, what, where, when, and how of the life you want before you take the first step towards creating it. You want to be sure about what’s possible, how it will be possible, when it will be possible, where exactly taking action will lead you, and who’s coming along for the ride.

But the reality is, you will only ever find out by taking action. By taking the first step forward, and then the next and then next. You cannot know 100% for sure how you will make something happen until the day you look back with hindsight at all the things that had to happen.

And knowing when it will happen? There’s one thing that is certain right now about that. The longer you delay getting started, the longer it’ll be before it happens.

Listen, you’ve got to stop trying to force certainty before you begin. The who, what, when, where, and how will become clear along the way if you simply live in the question of finding out.

This year, my husband and I are living in the question of setting up a second home in the south of France. Now, I don’t know how good you are with geography, but the whole South of France scope makes for an almost endless list of possible locations. Add to this that we really don’t know exactly what it is we are looking for in these locations, and it’s a pretty broad and unclear goal.

This kind of uncertainty is enough to stop most of us in our tracks because we feel really unconfident when there is this level of uncertainty, right? I mean, where do you even begin? So, we wait to take action until we feel more confident, which usually ends up meaning when we feel 100% clear and certain.

And this is the big mistake, thinking that we need to feel confident before we can take action. But it’s not a need. It’s a want. It’s a nice to have, but it’s not the be all and end all to making the life you want your reality. What I know is this. Confidence actually comes from doing and doing is what creates clarity.

Doing is what makes the who, the what, where, when, and how become crystal clear. Doing is how you find out what works and what doesn’t work for you. Doing is how you find out if something is for you, if it feels right, or if it feels like it’s not a fit. Doing is how you discover possibilities you might not have ever considered.

The only way my husband and I will ever get clear and confident on our goal is to begin sorting through what’s unclear. To start with what it is we are vaguely clear on right now, that we have a desire to find a second home somewhere in the south of France, and then go about living in the question of this desire in its broad state until it becomes clear. Until the action we take reveals the answers we need.

That has meant spending weekends any chance we get trying on new locations for size. Visiting towns and villages of various sizes in various locations to get a feel for whether or not these places are for us, whether or not they feel like a fit.

And what has been very quickly revealed is a whole list of what isn’t for us that is really helping us narrow down what is. That knowledge is helping us take the next step forward with so much more clarity and confidence, even though we still don’t know exactly where it is we’ll be calling home.

My friend, I’m not even yet worrying about the legalities of how to actually buy a property in France or when it will all happen. I know we’ll figure this out as we need to, and there is no rush. Rushing creates resistance. Trusting creates traction. And traction will eventually lead to results.

The woman who says YES! to herself and the desire she has for her life doesn’t wait until she has it all figured out. She says YES! to figuring it out as she goes. She places more trust in the process than in having some non-existent perfect plan. And she knows she’s capable of responding to whatever it is that comes her way.

Let the process lead. Let the next step be enough. Let what you do know now be enough. Clarity comes from trying things on size, from living in the question, from trusting taking action over your fears. Not from sitting in analysis paralysis.

Stop trying to force certainty before you begin. Let it be unclear until it isn’t. Say YES! to the unknown and say YES! to figuring it out as you go. Because truthfully, you’ve already been doing exactly that.

So moving on and cheat code number two is this. Give yourself permission to want what you want simply because you want it.

No more questioning. No more judging. No more justifying. No more shrinking. No more apologizing. If you can imagine it, it’s yours to want. If it lights you up, it’s yours to want.

And that doesn’t mean you have to go after it, by the way. I have so many things on my wants and desires list that I may never pursue, but I let them be there. I let them exist. Because imagining the expansiveness of what’s possible helps me tune into what it is I truly want. What’s most important to me to do, have an experience in my lifetime.

I have a seaside French chateau on my list of wants. It’s a possibility. I also know it might not be a fit for the kind of lifestyle I want to live. But I get to want what I want and I get to decide if I want it enough to ever go about making it my reality. And I get to choose when I make that decision.

There’s power in giving your desires a place to exist. Write them down, let them be real. So many of us don’t give ourselves permission to want what we want until we can justify the how or justify the worthiness of our desires. But desire doesn’t require a strategy. It requires the space to exist. And desire isn’t dependent on worthiness. Your desires are worthy because you are worthy and they are your desires. That’s what makes them valid.

What you want isn’t up for debate by you or by anyone. And your desires are going to exist whether you keep trying to ignore them or invalidate them or not. So why not just let them exist? Why not just want what you want, simply because you want it? End of story.

Remember, wanting it doesn’t mean having to go after it. You get to want it and go about making it your reality if and when you choose to do so.

And can we talk for a moment about this fear of acknowledging what it is you want and owning it, the full possibilities of what you want. So many of you are afraid to allow all of the possibilities to come and take a seat at your table because you are afraid of failing to make them happen. Usually because you’re stuck at cheat code number one that I just shared. And I want to offer you this.

Think of your possibilities like a dress shop. You don’t walk in expecting to buy every single dress you see, but you get to look at all of the possibilities and try them on if you choose right? Some of them are not going to be for you. You might like the look of them, but when you try them on and they don’t feel so good. And they might be that one or two that feel like a fit. So you take them home, or maybe your budget only allows you to take one home.

Is leaving the other dresses behind a failure? Or is taking that one dress home that really makes you feel good, a resounding success?

Listen, the reality is all of the other possibilities still exist. Only now you might know that some aren’t for you. But likely there are still other dresses that you can try on for size whenever you decide you’re ready for that next dress.

So give yourself permission to want what you want, simply because you want it. And take the pressure off your wants being anything more than your wants.

Say YES! to all of your desires. Big, small, wild, mundane, it doesn’t matter. Say YES! to letting everything be possible because in doing so, you’ll be amazed at just what can be possible in your lifetime.

And can we just be honest, wanting what you think you should want or what others tell you that you should want? Likely, you already know that this isn’t leading you to a life you love. So, let what you want be right for you and let what other people want be right for them.

Let’s move on and cheat code number three is you don’t need to make a plan, you need to make a decision.

A clear wholehearted decision moves mountains faster than any perfectly crafted plan. Because here’s the truth. I can hand you a flawless, cannot fail 10-step plan for creating a life you love and having everything you dream of. But if you haven’t made the decision that this life is yours to have, that plan won’t help you one bit.

If you are on the fence about being worthy of that life, you being ready to take the first step into the unknown, you being willing to change, you trusting you don’t need all the answers and you can figure it out as you go—if you haven’t drawn a line in the sand and made a decision that you want a life you wildly love and you will no longer tolerate or accept living a life you don’t, no plan I can ever give you will ever make a difference.

So many women sit on the fence waiting to be ready, waiting for the perfect moment. Planning, perfecting, and waiting for everything to be in order to feel ready to begin. I’ve been 100% guilty of this. So listen, no judgment. But readiness is a decision. Saying YES! to you is a decision. Deciding to go all in on you and the life you want is a decision. The plan, the strategy, the how that comes after the decision.

What if the only way to be ready is to decide to start? No Olympic athlete is ready to run the race when they first imagine doing it. They make a decision to start. They make a decision to show up for their dream. And they do what they need to do day after day until they are finally ready to run the race at an Olympic standard. They become ready because they were willing to make a decision to start, and they made that decision again and again and again until.

Sell yourself on the decision, not the plan. Because a woman who has decided is a force to be reckoned with. Just ask my husband. He will tell you, you don’t get in the way of a woman who has made up her mind. She is unstoppable. He will actually tell you stubborn, but I prefer unstoppable. So decide, and the rest will fall into place as long as you decide and decide to go all in on your decision.

By the way, that second decision is the most important one you can make. You’ve got to back your decisions. You’ve got to stand behind them and be open to where they lead you.

Not every decision is going to pan out the way you hope. But what’s the worst that can happen? You find out something doesn’t work for you the way you imagine. Great. You now know one way something doesn’t work, which means you are one step closer to finding what does.

Maybe you find out something you don’t want. Great. You are now one step closer to knowing what it is you do. Your decisions not working out are not failures. You get to choose what you make them mean. To me, they are stepping stones to success if you learn from them and redirect your efforts.

But think about what’s the best that could happen. What if the decision you are afraid of making, because you’re afraid of committing to it because you might fail, what if that’s the best decision you ever make in your lifetime? What if it’s the one decision that opens the door to the life of your wildest dreams?

Listen, decisiveness paired with acceptance and learning is what will lead you to a life you love faster than any 10-step plan. Remember, confidence comes from doing and doing brings certainty. The only way you can ever be certain a decision is the right one, is to make the decision and find out. Then make the next decision based on what you find out and the next and the next.

Say YES! to making a decision, even if you feel scared, even if you feel unsure. Say YES! anyway and trust yourself to handle whatever comes next.

Okay, so cheat code number four is you are not a problem to solve and your life does not need fixing.

You do not need to fix yourself or your life simply because it isn’t the experience you want it to be. Nothing has gone wrong here. Nothing is broken. All that’s happened is you found one way of being and doing life that doesn’t feel like a fit. Maybe it once did, but it no longer feels like a bit.

Here’s the thing. If you’ve been listening in on this podcast for a while, or you follow some of my socials, or you get my weekly email CREATED, you will have heard me say that for things to be different, you have to be different. And it’s true. I feel like a broken record, but you simply cannot experience something different if you keep showing up in your life in the same way.

It doesn’t mean that you need to be different because you’re somehow broken or not good enough as you are. You are changing, evolving, growing, however it is you’d like to see it because you can. Because you are capable of doing so and because there is a version of you who is better suited to making the life you want your reality.

Sometimes we resist this notion that we need to change, but who are, has been evolving, right throughout your entire lifetime. You didn’t start life as a working adult. You started as a baby, then you became a toddler, then you became a school kid, then maybe a university student before you finally changed into being a working adult. You most likely also evolved into being a wife or a loving partner. Maybe a mother. You might have recently evolved into being a caretaker for your elderly parents.

You see, we are always evolving who we be naturally in response to the natural course of our life. We don’t evolve because we aren’t good enough as we are, but because we can be so much more and because there is a version of us who is better suited for this next chapter of our lives.

All of the versions of you have something valuable to offer you. Growing into the next version of you is about standing on the shoulders of every you that you have ever been over time until now and using her wisdom, her resilience, her life learnings to step into a more expansive version of you.

And YES!, it’s true that not all of who you are right now serves you in having the life you want. But it doesn’t make you wrong for being who you are. It just means there is a different way that you can show up for yourself and in your world that does support the reality you’d like to experience.

So be curious about the patterns, the habits, the limiting beliefs and stories that don’t serve you. But don’t make yourself wrong for having them. Don’t make your evolution about fixing you. Every version of you has led you to this place right now where you can see so much further ahead than you could before. Trust that who you’ve been has been exactly who it is you’ve been meant to be. And also that you can be so much more.

Say YES! to all of you, who you’ve been, who you are, and who you can be. Say YES! to allowing new parts of you to shine. Say YES! to being worthy as you are and to becoming more than you are simply because you can, not because you need to prove your worth as a human being, or you need to fix you. Say YES! to creating the next you and her life, not to fixing you and your life.

Which brings me to cheat code number five. Take radical responsibility.

This one can feel a little confronting for some, but it’s also incredibly empowering, liberating, and life changing. If you want to say YES! to a life you love, you have to take full responsibility for your part in creating it.

You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are not the mercy of your past. You are the one who decides what the events of your past mean, what you make them mean about you and what you choose to do next. That’s the part no one else can do for you.

Radical responsibility means you stop outsourcing your power to shape the life you want. It means you stop blaming other people, other situations, or your past for why things aren’t where you want them to be. And it also means you stop waiting for someone or something else to change before you can have what it is that you want.

You take responsibility for your thoughts. You take responsibility for your beliefs. You take responsibility for the actions you take or don’t take. And most importantly, you take responsibility for how you respond to whatever life throws your way.

Now, responsibility doesn’t mean blame. This doesn’t mean making yourself wrong for where you’re at. This means owning your choices and realizing that from this moment forward, you get to choose differently if something isn’t working out for you. That is power.

And listen, this doesn’t mean you’re responsible for everything that’s ever happened to you. It doesn’t mean that when people have done wrong by you that you excuse their behavior and take the blame. But it does mean that you are responsible for who you choose to be in response to it. It also means that you stop being responsible for everyone else.

You are not responsible for how other people feel about your choices. You’re not responsible for their opinions, their expectations, or their emotional reactions to you choosing you and your dreams. That’s their responsibility to hold. Yours is you.

Your job is to take radical responsibility for being the woman who lives the life you want to live. That you take responsibility for who she is, what she believes, the standard she holds, the boundaries she upholds, the way she acts, the way she reacts, the decisions you make, the action you take, and the emotions you feel.

What you are really at the mercy of, is the level of responsibility you decide to take for all of these things right now, in this moment.

Your power lives in your willingness to fully own your life. You cannot control what other people do and don’t do. You cannot control everything that happens in the world. But you can control what you do and don’t do, and how you let the happenings of the world shape who you be and what’s possible for you.

When you stop placing your happiness and your outcomes into the hands of others, it is the most liberating place you will ever be.

Say YES! to reclaiming your power. Say YES! to taking full ownership of your story, of your decisions and your future. Say YES! to being the woman who creates a life you love, not the woman who waits for it to happen.

Alright, so we are getting close and cheat code number six is let it be a YES! or let it go.

If you want to create a life you love, you can’t keep saying YES! to the things that feel like a no.

Now, when I say no, I don’t mean the feeling of discomfort that comes with doing something new or stepping into something bigger than you’ve done before. That can feel scary, it can feel uncomfortable. But it doesn’t mean that it’s wrong or that you are not heading in the right direction. It can still be a YES!.

The kind of no I’m talking about is the one that feels like a drain. The kind that leaves you feeling heavy, disconnected, maybe resentful. The kind of no that pulls you out of alignment with who you want to be and what you know you want. That’s not growth, that is self-abandonment. And that’s the no that needs to go.

A life you love isn’t a destination you suddenly arrive at. It’s something you create in the every day of your now, by choosing your YESSES! and letting go of your no’s. Start tuning in to how you feel. Does this feel like a YES! to who you want to be? Is this a YES! to the life you actually want to live? Or does it feel like a no?

Now, like I said, not everything will feel fun and light all of the time. There are going to be moments that challenge you, that stretch you and ask you to grow. But there’s a difference between the discomfort of expansion and the heaviness of misalignment, of shrinking yourself, of putting the wants and needs of others before your own. Learn to tune in to the difference.

And start to notice when you’re saying YES! to what you don’t want, out of guilt, out of habit, out of obligation, or maybe out of fear. You don’t need to keep saying YES! to people, projects, opportunities, or ways of living that don’t support the life you want to experience just because you always have or just because you think you should. And you don’t need to keep saying YES! to your comfort zone, which is keeping you stuck in a life that you really don’t love.

Life is too short to keep saying no to you and YES! to everyone and everything else, but you. Say YES! to honoring what feels right for you, what feels like a YES! And no to everything else that doesn’t. Because that is how you become a woman who lives a life you love today.

Which brings me to the final cheat code, cheat code number seven, be her now.

The you who lives a life that feels like a YES! every single day. The you who plays life by her own rules. The you who is unbothered by what others think. The you who wakes up with excitement and passion and purpose, who feels confident and free and flourishing in her own skin. She’s not really a future version of you. She’s actually already within you right here, right now.

You couldn’t imagine her if she didn’t already exist within you. But she needs to be allowed to shine. She needs to be invited to take the lead role and to have her moment center stage in the limelight of your life.

Stop waiting for some magical moment to become her. You are already her. You just need to say YES! to being her, to thinking like her, acting like her making decisions like her, feeling like her. What would she say YES! to today? What would she no longer tolerate?

You don’t need to wait for a milestone or a makeover. You just need to choose to be her now. Not someday, not one day when you have the life you want.

You create the life you want today in this moment by being the you who lives that life. Being comes before doing and having. And so many of you focused on doing all the things so that you can have the life you want and then you’ll be the future you that you imagine lives that life. But my friend, this is the wrong way around and it makes things so much harder than they really need to be.

I think it was last week or maybe the week before that I said, we are human beings, not human doings. When you be the you who lives the life you want, that’s when you do the things you need to do that naturally lead you to having it.

Let go of needing to be a fit in everyone else’s story and play the lead role in your own. Let go of your fears and self-doubts that disguise staying as you are as comfort, but cost you the experience of being all that you can be. And let go of needing to be all of this next version of you perfectly all at once.

Embrace practicing being her just one day at a time, one way of being her at a time, until all of her feels like a second skin. It’s just who you are and how you show up in your world. Say YES! to being her now. Not someday, but today.

So, there you have it. My seven cheat codes for saying YES! to a life you love.

Number one, let it be unclear until it isn’t. Number two, give yourself permission to want what you want simply because you want it. Number three, you don’t need to make a plan, you need to make a decision. Number four, you are not a problem to solve and your life does not need fixing. Number five, take radical responsibility for your life. Number six, let it be a YES! or let it go. And number seven, be her now. Say YES! to being you who lives a life she wildly loves today, not someday when.

My friend, if you just take one of these cheat codes and apply it in your life, you will move the needle forward on the life you want. But if you run with all seven, I promise they will absolutely change the game so much faster than you ever knew was possible.

That’s it for today’s conversation. I’ll be back next Wednesday to share more of my Self-Creation Secrets to help you create a life you love.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!

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Everyone loves a good cheat sheet, right? Well, today I’m sharing seven cheat codes for saying YES! to a life you love.

These are simple but powerful fundamentals that I come back to time and time again. And each one of them is needle-moving on its own—but when you live by all seven? My friend, they will change the game.

Let’s dive in.

Welcome to The Self-Creation School podcast, for women who are ready to ditch mediocrity, step up and get more of what they want, and finally say YES! to a life that sets their soul on fire. I’m your host Leanne Letica, Self-Creation Coach, founder of The Self-Creation School AND Queen of YES!. If you’re ready to play life by your own personal rule book, and give yourself permission to say YES! to yourself and your wildest dreams, this podcast is the place for you.

Hello, and thanks so much for tuning in to today’s conversation. It’s great to have your company. If you are joining me for the first time, this podcast is the place where I share my secrets for creating a life you wildly love, one YES! to you and your dreams at a time.

I’m excited for today’s topic because what I have to share with you are seven simple shifts that you can make in your life today that really will change the game and fast. I call them cheat codes because honestly? To me they are such simple shifts, it kind of feels like cheating that they are just so very powerful at moving the needle forward on the life you want.

So, let’s kick things off and let’s start with the one that I have been personally leaning on a lot at the moment. Cheat code number one is let it be unclear until it’s not. Let it be unclear until it’s not.

So many of you are waiting to be 100% crystal clear and certain on the who, what, where, when, and how of the life you want before you take the first step towards creating it. You want to be sure about what’s possible, how it will be possible, when it will be possible, where exactly taking action will lead you, and who’s coming along for the ride.

But the reality is, you will only ever find out by taking action. By taking the first step forward, and then the next and then next. You cannot know 100% for sure how you will make something happen until the day you look back with hindsight at all the things that had to happen.

And knowing when it will happen? There’s one thing that is certain right now about that. The longer you delay getting started, the longer it’ll be before it happens.

Listen, you’ve got to stop trying to force certainty before you begin. The who, what, when, where, and how will become clear along the way if you simply live in the question of finding out.

This year, my husband and I are living in the question of setting up a second home in the south of France. Now, I don’t know how good you are with geography, but the whole South of France scope makes for an almost endless list of possible locations. Add to this that we really don’t know exactly what it is we are looking for in these locations, and it’s a pretty broad and unclear goal.

This kind of uncertainty is enough to stop most of us in our tracks because we feel really unconfident when there is this level of uncertainty, right? I mean, where do you even begin? So, we wait to take action until we feel more confident, which usually ends up meaning when we feel 100% clear and certain.

And this is the big mistake, thinking that we need to feel confident before we can take action. But it’s not a need. It’s a want. It’s a nice to have, but it’s not the be all and end all to making the life you want your reality. What I know is this. Confidence actually comes from doing and doing is what creates clarity.

Doing is what makes the who, the what, where, when, and how become crystal clear. Doing is how you find out what works and what doesn’t work for you. Doing is how you find out if something is for you, if it feels right, or if it feels like it’s not a fit. Doing is how you discover possibilities you might not have ever considered.

The only way my husband and I will ever get clear and confident on our goal is to begin sorting through what’s unclear. To start with what it is we are vaguely clear on right now, that we have a desire to find a second home somewhere in the south of France, and then go about living in the question of this desire in its broad state until it becomes clear. Until the action we take reveals the answers we need.

That has meant spending weekends any chance we get trying on new locations for size. Visiting towns and villages of various sizes in various locations to get a feel for whether or not these places are for us, whether or not they feel like a fit.

And what has been very quickly revealed is a whole list of what isn’t for us that is really helping us narrow down what is. That knowledge is helping us take the next step forward with so much more clarity and confidence, even though we still don’t know exactly where it is we’ll be calling home.

My friend, I’m not even yet worrying about the legalities of how to actually buy a property in France or when it will all happen. I know we’ll figure this out as we need to, and there is no rush. Rushing creates resistance. Trusting creates traction. And traction will eventually lead to results.

The woman who says YES! to herself and the desire she has for her life doesn’t wait until she has it all figured out. She says YES! to figuring it out as she goes. She places more trust in the process than in having some non-existent perfect plan. And she knows she’s capable of responding to whatever it is that comes her way.

Let the process lead. Let the next step be enough. Let what you do know now be enough. Clarity comes from trying things on size, from living in the question, from trusting taking action over your fears. Not from sitting in analysis paralysis.

Stop trying to force certainty before you begin. Let it be unclear until it isn’t. Say YES! to the unknown and say YES! to figuring it out as you go. Because truthfully, you’ve already been doing exactly that.

So moving on and cheat code number two is this. Give yourself permission to want what you want simply because you want it.

No more questioning. No more judging. No more justifying. No more shrinking. No more apologizing. If you can imagine it, it’s yours to want. If it lights you up, it’s yours to want.

And that doesn’t mean you have to go after it, by the way. I have so many things on my wants and desires list that I may never pursue, but I let them be there. I let them exist. Because imagining the expansiveness of what’s possible helps me tune into what it is I truly want. What’s most important to me to do, have an experience in my lifetime.

I have a seaside French chateau on my list of wants. It’s a possibility. I also know it might not be a fit for the kind of lifestyle I want to live. But I get to want what I want and I get to decide if I want it enough to ever go about making it my reality. And I get to choose when I make that decision.

There’s power in giving your desires a place to exist. Write them down, let them be real. So many of us don’t give ourselves permission to want what we want until we can justify the how or justify the worthiness of our desires. But desire doesn’t require a strategy. It requires the space to exist. And desire isn’t dependent on worthiness. Your desires are worthy because you are worthy and they are your desires. That’s what makes them valid.

What you want isn’t up for debate by you or by anyone. And your desires are going to exist whether you keep trying to ignore them or invalidate them or not. So why not just let them exist? Why not just want what you want, simply because you want it? End of story.

Remember, wanting it doesn’t mean having to go after it. You get to want it and go about making it your reality if and when you choose to do so.

And can we talk for a moment about this fear of acknowledging what it is you want and owning it, the full possibilities of what you want. So many of you are afraid to allow all of the possibilities to come and take a seat at your table because you are afraid of failing to make them happen. Usually because you’re stuck at cheat code number one that I just shared. And I want to offer you this.

Think of your possibilities like a dress shop. You don’t walk in expecting to buy every single dress you see, but you get to look at all of the possibilities and try them on if you choose right? Some of them are not going to be for you. You might like the look of them, but when you try them on and they don’t feel so good. And they might be that one or two that feel like a fit. So you take them home, or maybe your budget only allows you to take one home.

Is leaving the other dresses behind a failure? Or is taking that one dress home that really makes you feel good, a resounding success?

Listen, the reality is all of the other possibilities still exist. Only now you might know that some aren’t for you. But likely there are still other dresses that you can try on for size whenever you decide you’re ready for that next dress.

So give yourself permission to want what you want, simply because you want it. And take the pressure off your wants being anything more than your wants.

Say YES! to all of your desires. Big, small, wild, mundane, it doesn’t matter. Say YES! to letting everything be possible because in doing so, you’ll be amazed at just what can be possible in your lifetime.

And can we just be honest, wanting what you think you should want or what others tell you that you should want? Likely, you already know that this isn’t leading you to a life you love. So, let what you want be right for you and let what other people want be right for them.

Let’s move on and cheat code number three is you don’t need to make a plan, you need to make a decision.

A clear wholehearted decision moves mountains faster than any perfectly crafted plan. Because here’s the truth. I can hand you a flawless, cannot fail 10-step plan for creating a life you love and having everything you dream of. But if you haven’t made the decision that this life is yours to have, that plan won’t help you one bit.

If you are on the fence about being worthy of that life, you being ready to take the first step into the unknown, you being willing to change, you trusting you don’t need all the answers and you can figure it out as you go—if you haven’t drawn a line in the sand and made a decision that you want a life you wildly love and you will no longer tolerate or accept living a life you don’t, no plan I can ever give you will ever make a difference.

So many women sit on the fence waiting to be ready, waiting for the perfect moment. Planning, perfecting, and waiting for everything to be in order to feel ready to begin. I’ve been 100% guilty of this. So listen, no judgment. But readiness is a decision. Saying YES! to you is a decision. Deciding to go all in on you and the life you want is a decision. The plan, the strategy, the how that comes after the decision.

What if the only way to be ready is to decide to start? No Olympic athlete is ready to run the race when they first imagine doing it. They make a decision to start. They make a decision to show up for their dream. And they do what they need to do day after day until they are finally ready to run the race at an Olympic standard. They become ready because they were willing to make a decision to start, and they made that decision again and again and again until.

Sell yourself on the decision, not the plan. Because a woman who has decided is a force to be reckoned with. Just ask my husband. He will tell you, you don’t get in the way of a woman who has made up her mind. She is unstoppable. He will actually tell you stubborn, but I prefer unstoppable. So decide, and the rest will fall into place as long as you decide and decide to go all in on your decision.

By the way, that second decision is the most important one you can make. You’ve got to back your decisions. You’ve got to stand behind them and be open to where they lead you.

Not every decision is going to pan out the way you hope. But what’s the worst that can happen? You find out something doesn’t work for you the way you imagine. Great. You now know one way something doesn’t work, which means you are one step closer to finding what does.

Maybe you find out something you don’t want. Great. You are now one step closer to knowing what it is you do. Your decisions not working out are not failures. You get to choose what you make them mean. To me, they are stepping stones to success if you learn from them and redirect your efforts.

But think about what’s the best that could happen. What if the decision you are afraid of making, because you’re afraid of committing to it because you might fail, what if that’s the best decision you ever make in your lifetime? What if it’s the one decision that opens the door to the life of your wildest dreams?

Listen, decisiveness paired with acceptance and learning is what will lead you to a life you love faster than any 10-step plan. Remember, confidence comes from doing and doing brings certainty. The only way you can ever be certain a decision is the right one, is to make the decision and find out. Then make the next decision based on what you find out and the next and the next.

Say YES! to making a decision, even if you feel scared, even if you feel unsure. Say YES! anyway and trust yourself to handle whatever comes next.

Okay, so cheat code number four is you are not a problem to solve and your life does not need fixing.

You do not need to fix yourself or your life simply because it isn’t the experience you want it to be. Nothing has gone wrong here. Nothing is broken. All that’s happened is you found one way of being and doing life that doesn’t feel like a fit. Maybe it once did, but it no longer feels like a bit.

Here’s the thing. If you’ve been listening in on this podcast for a while, or you follow some of my socials, or you get my weekly email CREATED, you will have heard me say that for things to be different, you have to be different. And it’s true. I feel like a broken record, but you simply cannot experience something different if you keep showing up in your life in the same way.

It doesn’t mean that you need to be different because you’re somehow broken or not good enough as you are. You are changing, evolving, growing, however it is you’d like to see it because you can. Because you are capable of doing so and because there is a version of you who is better suited to making the life you want your reality.

Sometimes we resist this notion that we need to change, but who are, has been evolving, right throughout your entire lifetime. You didn’t start life as a working adult. You started as a baby, then you became a toddler, then you became a school kid, then maybe a university student before you finally changed into being a working adult. You most likely also evolved into being a wife or a loving partner. Maybe a mother. You might have recently evolved into being a caretaker for your elderly parents.

You see, we are always evolving who we be naturally in response to the natural course of our life. We don’t evolve because we aren’t good enough as we are, but because we can be so much more and because there is a version of us who is better suited for this next chapter of our lives.

All of the versions of you have something valuable to offer you. Growing into the next version of you is about standing on the shoulders of every you that you have ever been over time until now and using her wisdom, her resilience, her life learnings to step into a more expansive version of you.

And YES!, it’s true that not all of who you are right now serves you in having the life you want. But it doesn’t make you wrong for being who you are. It just means there is a different way that you can show up for yourself and in your world that does support the reality you’d like to experience.

So be curious about the patterns, the habits, the limiting beliefs and stories that don’t serve you. But don’t make yourself wrong for having them. Don’t make your evolution about fixing you. Every version of you has led you to this place right now where you can see so much further ahead than you could before. Trust that who you’ve been has been exactly who it is you’ve been meant to be. And also that you can be so much more.

Say YES! to all of you, who you’ve been, who you are, and who you can be. Say YES! to allowing new parts of you to shine. Say YES! to being worthy as you are and to becoming more than you are simply because you can, not because you need to prove your worth as a human being, or you need to fix you. Say YES! to creating the next you and her life, not to fixing you and your life.

Which brings me to cheat code number five. Take radical responsibility.

This one can feel a little confronting for some, but it’s also incredibly empowering, liberating, and life changing. If you want to say YES! to a life you love, you have to take full responsibility for your part in creating it.

You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are not the mercy of your past. You are the one who decides what the events of your past mean, what you make them mean about you and what you choose to do next. That’s the part no one else can do for you.

Radical responsibility means you stop outsourcing your power to shape the life you want. It means you stop blaming other people, other situations, or your past for why things aren’t where you want them to be. And it also means you stop waiting for someone or something else to change before you can have what it is that you want.

You take responsibility for your thoughts. You take responsibility for your beliefs. You take responsibility for the actions you take or don’t take. And most importantly, you take responsibility for how you respond to whatever life throws your way.

Now, responsibility doesn’t mean blame. This doesn’t mean making yourself wrong for where you’re at. This means owning your choices and realizing that from this moment forward, you get to choose differently if something isn’t working out for you. That is power.

And listen, this doesn’t mean you’re responsible for everything that’s ever happened to you. It doesn’t mean that when people have done wrong by you that you excuse their behavior and take the blame. But it does mean that you are responsible for who you choose to be in response to it. It also means that you stop being responsible for everyone else.

You are not responsible for how other people feel about your choices. You’re not responsible for their opinions, their expectations, or their emotional reactions to you choosing you and your dreams. That’s their responsibility to hold. Yours is you.

Your job is to take radical responsibility for being the woman who lives the life you want to live. That you take responsibility for who she is, what she believes, the standard she holds, the boundaries she upholds, the way she acts, the way she reacts, the decisions you make, the action you take, and the emotions you feel.

What you are really at the mercy of, is the level of responsibility you decide to take for all of these things right now, in this moment.

Your power lives in your willingness to fully own your life. You cannot control what other people do and don’t do. You cannot control everything that happens in the world. But you can control what you do and don’t do, and how you let the happenings of the world shape who you be and what’s possible for you.

When you stop placing your happiness and your outcomes into the hands of others, it is the most liberating place you will ever be.

Say YES! to reclaiming your power. Say YES! to taking full ownership of your story, of your decisions and your future. Say YES! to being the woman who creates a life you love, not the woman who waits for it to happen.

Alright, so we are getting close and cheat code number six is let it be a YES! or let it go.

If you want to create a life you love, you can’t keep saying YES! to the things that feel like a no.

Now, when I say no, I don’t mean the feeling of discomfort that comes with doing something new or stepping into something bigger than you’ve done before. That can feel scary, it can feel uncomfortable. But it doesn’t mean that it’s wrong or that you are not heading in the right direction. It can still be a YES!.

The kind of no I’m talking about is the one that feels like a drain. The kind that leaves you feeling heavy, disconnected, maybe resentful. The kind of no that pulls you out of alignment with who you want to be and what you know you want. That’s not growth, that is self-abandonment. And that’s the no that needs to go.

A life you love isn’t a destination you suddenly arrive at. It’s something you create in the every day of your now, by choosing your YESSES! and letting go of your no’s. Start tuning in to how you feel. Does this feel like a YES! to who you want to be? Is this a YES! to the life you actually want to live? Or does it feel like a no?

Now, like I said, not everything will feel fun and light all of the time. There are going to be moments that challenge you, that stretch you and ask you to grow. But there’s a difference between the discomfort of expansion and the heaviness of misalignment, of shrinking yourself, of putting the wants and needs of others before your own. Learn to tune in to the difference.

And start to notice when you’re saying YES! to what you don’t want, out of guilt, out of habit, out of obligation, or maybe out of fear. You don’t need to keep saying YES! to people, projects, opportunities, or ways of living that don’t support the life you want to experience just because you always have or just because you think you should. And you don’t need to keep saying YES! to your comfort zone, which is keeping you stuck in a life that you really don’t love.

Life is too short to keep saying no to you and YES! to everyone and everything else, but you. Say YES! to honoring what feels right for you, what feels like a YES! And no to everything else that doesn’t. Because that is how you become a woman who lives a life you love today.

Which brings me to the final cheat code, cheat code number seven, be her now.

The you who lives a life that feels like a YES! every single day. The you who plays life by her own rules. The you who is unbothered by what others think. The you who wakes up with excitement and passion and purpose, who feels confident and free and flourishing in her own skin. She’s not really a future version of you. She’s actually already within you right here, right now.

You couldn’t imagine her if she didn’t already exist within you. But she needs to be allowed to shine. She needs to be invited to take the lead role and to have her moment center stage in the limelight of your life.

Stop waiting for some magical moment to become her. You are already her. You just need to say YES! to being her, to thinking like her, acting like her making decisions like her, feeling like her. What would she say YES! to today? What would she no longer tolerate?

You don’t need to wait for a milestone or a makeover. You just need to choose to be her now. Not someday, not one day when you have the life you want.

You create the life you want today in this moment by being the you who lives that life. Being comes before doing and having. And so many of you focused on doing all the things so that you can have the life you want and then you’ll be the future you that you imagine lives that life. But my friend, this is the wrong way around and it makes things so much harder than they really need to be.

I think it was last week or maybe the week before that I said, we are human beings, not human doings. When you be the you who lives the life you want, that’s when you do the things you need to do that naturally lead you to having it.

Let go of needing to be a fit in everyone else’s story and play the lead role in your own. Let go of your fears and self-doubts that disguise staying as you are as comfort, but cost you the experience of being all that you can be. And let go of needing to be all of this next version of you perfectly all at once.

Embrace practicing being her just one day at a time, one way of being her at a time, until all of her feels like a second skin. It’s just who you are and how you show up in your world. Say YES! to being her now. Not someday, but today.

So, there you have it. My seven cheat codes for saying YES! to a life you love.

Number one, let it be unclear until it isn’t. Number two, give yourself permission to want what you want simply because you want it. Number three, you don’t need to make a plan, you need to make a decision. Number four, you are not a problem to solve and your life does not need fixing. Number five, take radical responsibility for your life. Number six, let it be a YES! or let it go. And number seven, be her now. Say YES! to being you who lives a life she wildly loves today, not someday when.

My friend, if you just take one of these cheat codes and apply it in your life, you will move the needle forward on the life you want. But if you run with all seven, I promise they will absolutely change the game so much faster than you ever knew was possible.

That’s it for today’s conversation. I’ll be back next Wednesday to share more of my Self-Creation Secrets to help you create a life you love.

Until then, be the woman who says YES!

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